ethical non-monogamy

Transitions are hard, even when they are exciting! We can help you decide if you want to transition into non-monogamy, and if so, what kind. We can also support you in unpacking monogamous narratives that are keeping your brain stuck when you want to move forward with non-monogamy.

One of the golden rules of non-monogamy is to communicate until you’re sick of it, and then communicate some more! When communication challenges come up, it can be helpful to have a knowledge, neutral third party in the room. We can support you with establishing agreements and boundaries, navigating hard conversations and figuring out the logistics of dating multiple people.

Non-monogamy has a way of intensifying all of the patterns we already have, on top of rattling our previously established sense of safety and connection in relationships. Conflict is an expected part of any relationship, but that doesn’t mean it has feel world-ending every time. We can support you in finding better ways to resolve conflict, that put you and your partners on the same team, rather than against each other.

Jealousy, new relationship energy (NRE), compersion (or lack thereof) – there are so many emotional experiences that non-monogamy can bring in up that we don’t often experience otherwise. Even when you’ve worked hard on your emotional intelligence, these feelings can still hit you like a freight train.

Item descriptionOne of the wonderful things about the non-monogamous model of relationships is that it gives us so many options for connection, meeting needs, exploration and delighting in ourselves and others. As with many aspects of relationships, creating and maintaining fulfilling, secure connections is part skill and part trust in ourselves. Therapy can help you let go of barriers to connection, and lean into the relationship that feel good for you.